ABOUT LETTING GO…

I know what to throw away and what to keep… When to let go and when to hold tight.

He clings to the baggage of yesterday’s memory,
And tries to swim through the ocean of today’s reality.
His palms bleed with the scars of yesteryears unattended
Yet he tries to have a firm grip on today’s bliss.

How can a man look into the future When the woes of time past blur his vision?
He makes it to the other side of the pool when he swims light.

You shouldn’t pour new wine into an old bottle.
Nor sew a patch of new cloth on an old garment.
Know when to dwell on and when to move on.

Picture what happens to a river that stops flowing… It gets stagnated and becomes an eye sore.

Yesterday’s pain is today’s gain.
He wins life’s race whose eyes is on the target
But is bound to lose out that never stops looking over his shoulder.
Best you forget what is behind and reach out for what is ahead.

Think about the phoenix, reborn from its ashes, to start a new life.
Even the snake as it sheds its skin so it can growth further.

Shed some weight and up you go.

Love…learn…live!


©ayansola ibukun

WHEN A DOOR CLOSES…

Some Valid Rants For The New Year

I would like my car to fly and make me breakfast, but that’s an unrealistic expectation. Jack Tretton

I’ve learnt not to have unrealistic expectations of people and not to project my expectations on them either. It’s one reason i’ll never get bitter at anyone or hold people captives in my heart. Men are men I’ve come to learn. I’ll rather lower my expectations of people and be amazed when they deliver than expect much from them only to be disappointed when they fail to live up to my expectations.

Don’t be quick to think of me as a cynic or narcissist. I hope/believe the best of people. People change for the better. Meanwhile, there are really great ones out there – some of whom I’m blessed to know. However, I do well not to live on/by chances.

Perhaps you are someone like me…the type who likes to spend and be spent for others but find it difficult to ask for help when there is need for it. And why is that: It somehow makes you feel like you’re trying to take advantage of them or something. However, there arise a number of occasions when there is a pressing financial need and you are forced to come out of your shell. So, reluctantly, you talk to Uncle A and Friend B about it.

Uncle A tells you he is sorry that he can’t help ‘at this time’ as he just offset some bills recently and is cash-strapped himself. As for Friend B, he really wished he could assist you but doesn’t just have the means to do so at moment. Phew! For someone who hardly bothers others with his personal issues, getting such responses eventually may feel like a slap in the face.

In such cases, you can either feel entitled and be bitter or take the outcome in good faith, move on and trust God to meet that need in His own way.

But Uncle A can’t be broke as he claimed. Didn’t he just purchase a piece of property and bought his wife a new ride while at it? Meanwhile, Friend B is just plainly tightfisted; he never wanted to give in the first place.

Consider this: What if neither Uncle A or Friend B didn’t have what to spare as they claimed? Perhaps they could do much more in the nearest future. And even if they had and wouldn’t give…so what? They aren’t responsible for me and neither do I labour for them. Why then should I hold a grudge against them for not being helpful?

Interestingly, in most cases, such needs are met through means I least expected.

Regardless of disappointing experiences I have in my dealings with folks, regardless of the unpleasant turn of events, it doesn’t change my resolve to always be the best of me. The truth is when a door closes, another opens. Unfortunately, the man who becomes fixated on a particular closed door may never notice when the other opens.

True, you get to have men (not spirits) minister to your needs. You however don’t get to determine who exactly will. Doing so may imply setting yourself up for a certain circle of disappointments and heartaches.

Tieing the nots

It’s a new year. Don’t have exaggerated/unrealistic expectations of folks. Enlarge your heart/mind. See beyond the limited sphere. Be intelligent with situations, experiences and actions. Never forget that there are always two sides to a coin. Believe/hope the best of people but never rest your hope on people. Rather than be the gimme guy, strive to be the giving guy. Do your best to take responsibility for your life and trust God to meet your every needs.

When a door closes, another opens!


Thank you for reading.


©ayansolaibukun

MANGER BORN; POWER BORNE!

God has always had huge plans for mankind. That man was the last of his creations wasn’t an afterthought. Actually, man was the chiefest of them all – God’s masterpiece. While he was creating the works of the 1st 5 days – the elements, animals, plants and all, – he was thinking about man. His desire was to make him exist in his likeness and image; to be one with dominion and authority, whose life will know no end.

To this man he gave freewill, even the power to make his own choices. He could have made him into a zombie but what pleasure would a breathing robot bring to him? All that man had to do to abide in the spiritual estate God put him was to obey a simple instruction. However, the wicked one came – that old serpent, the devil – and sowed a seed of contrary opinion in his mind: Don’t listen to God for he doesn’t want the best for you. Our progenitor feasted on this lie long enough until he acted in respect to the devil’s counsel. And thus man fell short of God’s glory.

Man died! Got separated/disconnected from his source, i.e. God and left at the mercy of the evil one. So by one man’s sin, death passed upon all menBut God is rich in mercy. Regardless of man’s shortcomings, he will not let go of his eternal purpose for him. He still desired to bring man back to the place of fellowship with him and make him enjoy the gift of eternal life which he forfeited in the fall.

Right from the fall, God promised to perform the work of restoration BY HIMSELF. Hence, I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel. God by himself will. The seed of the woman promised was Jesus – God made flesh!

He couldn’t have come as spirit, in his ‘almightiness’, even as the God that he his for without no shedding of blood, there is no remission of sins and spirits don’t survive on blood. If he was going to carry out a perfect sacrifice for mankind, he would have to share the same humanity with mankind – in flesh and blood.

So deity humbled himself; the everlasting one came in the likeness of men – carried for 9 months in the womb of the virgin Mary. He was of a lowly birth – manger born.

Never was his birth a random incident. Rather, it was prophesied/promised in the scriptures long before he came. Moses spoke concerning his incarnation. Noah witnessed him in the similitude of an ark. Abraham received him in a figure, even in Isaac. David prophesied his birth and so did Isaiah, Ezekiel, Malachi and indeed all the prophets of old.

His birth had/has a purpose: Born to die…to die for the sins of mankind. His incarnation was a rite of passage, a means to an end – sacrifice. This is the essence of Christmas. It’s not a fanfare but a conscious reminder of God’s – and indeed – Christ’ love, faithfulness and uncommon sacrifice.

Hence, the need to share with others the significance of his birth and the crux of his ministry (the ministry of reconciliation). He came to give us a relationship with the father not a mere religion.

Men should not just partake in our special meals and hampers. As nice as that is, it doesn’t relay the message. Let’s communicate God’s love to everyone by bringing Jesus to them. That way, Christmas will make much sense.

On this day and always, we thank the Father for giving us His son, and much more His spirit – till His work on earth is done.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!


©ayansolaibukun

🙏I COUNT MY BLESSINGS!🙏

🎶 Count your blessings name them one by one.

Count your blessings see what God has done.

Count your blessings, name them one by one

And it will surprise you what the Lord has done🎶


Do you happen to know this song? If so, have you ever pondered on the lyrics and act on it?

It’s sad how we despise God’s blessings because other expectations aren’t yet met. The truth is nothing matters in life more than life itself.

Isaiah reiterated this…

Isaiah 38
[18] For the grave cannot praise thee, death cannot celebrate thee: they that go down into the pit cannot hope for thy truth.
19] The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: the father to the children shall make known thy truth.

I once asked someone who was grumbling over a ” bad day ” this question: Instead of a “bad day” “would you rather have no day at all?

Jesus rebuked our prioritizing what we wear more than life itself.

Matthew 6:25 KJV
[25] Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

… Including food. It takes life for food to be relevant not vice versa. Our soul is more vital to God than things we get.

Life means opportunity, another chance, it means salvation is possible, miracles are possible, fellowship is available …, only life guarantees these! A thankful heart knows this.

In the cold realities of life can emerge complexities. Whilst some are seeking the fruit of the womb, for others, the challenge they have are their kids. To some they need a wife. For others, that’s exactly what their problem is; their wives are all the trouble they have. It goes on and on…

Shame on the murmurer; he doesn’t think deeply. He grumbles at life’s challenges, he “curses” life without saying it. He despises God’s greatest blessing.

The truth is we can’t pray, trust God and His power and still grumble, despising His blessings. This is because the Christ life plants contentment in us.

1 Timothy 6
[6] But godliness with contentment is great gain.
8] And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.

We are yet blessed, despite what we don’t have yet.

True, midnight hours aren’t good times: You probably lost your job, your debts are rising, creditors getting awry, things getting worse even as you are encouraging others. Yet, you can’t murmur. There are blessings to count, and be thankful for even as you expect more.

It’s interesting to note that Jesus’s two most notable miracles were done amidst thanksgiving despite the untoward situations: Supplying abundance of bread in the desert and raising Lazarus from the dead after 4 days.

There are things to be grateful for, friends to be thankful for, family to rejoice for, things yes, things you look at, your church, pastors, colleagues at work, good health, life itself!

Next time the spirit of murmuring wants to descend upon your soul, look around and count your blessings, one by one and you will be amazed how Much the Lord Has Done!


In less than 10 hours, I’ll be adding another year. That funny part of me would like to look back and think about the things I haven’t achieved (and should have achieved) all the years gone by; to rue the many life opportunities I have carelessly allowed to pass me by… But no, I’m not going to give it a shot. Rather, I’m going to be grateful and give thanks: for the gift of life, for salvation, for the blessings of a loving family and wonderful friends, for the victories won, for the benefits I presently enjoy and greater things God has in store for me!

” Little things you (the Lord) do for me……are great things.”


P. S. This article is culled from a post from Pastor Segun Onayinka.

SAVED TO BE BROKE?

GOD WANTS YOU TO PROSPER

I’m sure you’ve come across a couple of believing folks who think that prospering in material things is not a proof of godly living. They often have a cynical disposition towards other believers who live in financial abundance.

What’s more, they attribute any indication of wealth (be it acquiring a bespoke ride or a vast piece of property) to dubious means. In their opinion, whoever must serve God and live a holy life must need endure hardship on earth. He/she must suffer lack and go through all manners of adversity. This, according to them, is the true test of a believer.

Well, here is good news: God is not interested in anyone’s poverty neither does he take joy in a fellow’s misery. Instead, a man’s lack or otherwise is a function of his will/choice.

The bible is the source of inspiration for believers and it informs our manner of thinking and conduct. Hence, when it is misinterpreted, it results in misapplication. Hence, many a heresy has been birthed because people took biblical passages out of context. Let’s take a look at a couple of scriptures many stay-away-from-riches believing folks have misconstrued.

Acts 14:21 And when they had preached the gospel to that city, and had taught many, they returned again to Lystra, and to Iconium, and Antioch

22 Confirming the souls of the disciples, and exhorting them to continue in the faith, and that we must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God.

In the passage referenced, Apostle Paul tells the Christians at Antioch that “we must through much tribulations enter the kingdom of God”. Many have taken this verse out of context to imply that the only way we can make heaven is through suffering or want. On the contrary, Paul was not talking about lack of material things here. Note that he uses the word tribulation.

When properly interpreted, the word ‘tribulation’ speaks of trials and persecutions, particularly for the sake of the gospel. Just in the preceding verses, Paul himself experienced such tribulation when he was stoned almost to the point of death while preaching at Lystra. Hence, that verse is saying “in the course of preaching the gospel and living a godly life, we will encounter persecutions and maltreatments from those who do not believe.

Here is another one:

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows – 1Tim6:10.

Many have equated the statement to mean “money is the root of all evil”. Meanwhile, what it says is that the love of money is the root of all evil. What then is the love of money? It’s the inordinate desire to get wealth by all means (by hook or crook). When nothing else matters to a man but only the pursuit of money, he has the love of money. Money by itself cannot be root of all evil since the same money answereth all things. It’s the insatiable lust for it that results in evil.

The Rich Man and Lazarus: A Case Study

The advocates of the Spartan-like Christian living always like to use the account of Lazarus and the rich man as a basis for their belief. From the account, we read that Lazarus lived a miserable life but ended up in heaven while the rich man died and woke in hell. It should however be clarified that the rich man did not surface in hell because he was rich. Rather, he ended up in misery because of his uncharitable lifestyle while on earth.

On the other hand, Lazarus’ pathetic life on earth was never God’s will but his. Verse 21 of that passage tells us that he desired to be fed with crumbs – what a desire! Lazarus did not desire to be healed of his sores and neither did he desire that his story changed for the better. Instead, he desired to eat crumbs. And sure, he got what he wanted.

You won’t have it if you don’t desire it!

A man’s desire/choice is really powerful, even God respects it; for as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he – Pro 23:7. God cannot help a man beyond the level of his desire. For instance, we read of the healing of blind Bartimaeus in Mark 10:46-52. Jesus healed him based on his desires: Lord, that I might receive my sight. Yes, Lazarus was godly and all. However, he chose to remain in his sorry state. God was/is powerful enough to heal him and cause him to prosper. Nevertheless, He could not do it without his consent. If Lazarus did not desire it, God could do nothing about it. Therefore, no one should associate God with his or Lazarus’ miseries.

Lessons from Jabez

While Lazarus was content with pain and poverty, Jabez refused to settle for less. While Lazarus desired crumbs, Jabez desired much more. Consider the expression of his desire:

Oh that thou wouldest bless me and enlarger my coast and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me!

Surely, God granted his request/heart desire.

Any believer who chooses to live in penury and hardship can do so as long as he keeps God out of his self-imposed misery.


Thanks for reading!


©Ayansola Ibukun

🎂Birthday Shoutout to Blessing 🎂

Her name is Blessing. She is an amazing lady and it’s her birthday!

She is one of the blessings that I enjoy on this platform.

If there is one thing to be grateful for about the internet-wired world we now live in, it’s the ability to connect with people from far and wide – people you’ll never have dreamt to know let alone having anything to do with them. WordPress has availed me of the opportunity to come in touch with Blessing, connect with her and get to know her better.

Now that I think of it, I can’t specifically remember how I made the initial contact with her. I guess I must have stumbled on one of her blog posts, read through it and gotten intrigued enough by its content to make me visit her blog, follow it, read up on some more of her posts and engaged them. The rest should be history.

Even though I’m yet to see her physically, we’ve come to know and learn a lot from each other. For instance, I’ve gotten to discover how resilient and purposeful she can be. How that she is a go-getter and has zero tolerance for mediocrity.

So Blessing, because I know of your faith in the Lord and your love for all things goodly😊, I cease not to pray for you and to make mention of you in my prayers: That God will cause you to prosper in the center of his will for you. He’ll make you grow in grace and in His knowledge. God blesses the works of your hand and grants you your heart desires. He makes all favour and earthly blessings abound towards you and increases you on all sides.

Please friends, do help me wish her a happy birthday and give her a birthday present by visiting her blog @ timewithdanalyzt.com. She is a passionate and inspiring writer who gives practical/positive counsels concerning lifestyle and wholesome living. You won’t be disappointed.

A happy birthday to you Blessing!

Yet another season to swim in the fulness of God’s love and favour.


P.S. Who knows, perhaps our paths will cross sooner than we could have imagined. There and then, I’ll be able to buy you a plate of nkwobi and fine wine to celebrate your birthday 😉.

5 MYTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE YOU SHOULD DEBUNK

Hello good people! I’ve been wanting to put this out for a while but “some forces” seemed to be hindering its release. Today, the embargo is lifted.

I’m sure we’ve heard/read all manner of things about marriage and its entailments. While some are absolutely right, others are merely cock and bull. I’ll be addressing a few of those wrongs notions in this post. Let’s get down to business…

Marriage is a must

Shouldn’t wearing your shoes to bed be a must too?

Marriage, when done as God would have it, is honorable and desirable. To cast aspersion on the institution is to make an open display of one’s ignorance of its dynamic: God’s love and relationship with His church. In the same vein, to think of marriage as a 6-unit course that one must not fail (in the Lord) is to think overboard.

“Marriage is not a must; rather, it’s a choice – albeit a noble one” .

I’m yet to find out (from the scriptures) that a believing man is cast in hell because he refuses to get married neither have I discovered an occasion where God dealt with men variably depending on their marital status. God’s primary concern for man is his spiritual well-being. The Bible didn’t reckon with anyone according to their marital status. Whether a man marries or not is secondary and inconsequential.

Such an expression as a ‘a man/woman incomplete without a spouse‘ is a big fat lie. Marriage makes no one complete. The believer is only complete in Him (Christ). He/she needs no man or woman to be whole. And that’s why I’m often bemused when I hear folks call their partners their ‘better half‘. In a godly marriage, two (separately) complete individuals come together to become one (in the flesh). The word ‘one’ simply denotes unity, harmony, and singleness of purpose, not number.

Marriage is advantageous but not a necessity.

You shouldn’t be single at so and so age

Such statement as “your mates are now married” is one reason why many have rushed into hapless relationships/marriages today. The question is: Is your name/identity ‘your mate’?

What if he is 34 and does not think like one? What if she is 30 and still isn’t emotionally and spiritually mature? When God designed the institution called marriage, he didn’t attach an age bracket for admittance into it.

All we know is that marriage is a union between a MAN and a WOMAN. Meanwhile, the last time I checked, the age requirement into MANHOOD is relative. What makes a man or woman is not necessarily the length of years but the extent of maturity. Little wonder Elihu said, “Age is no guarantee of wisdom and understanding”.

This isn’t to say that a teenager should start considering marriage or that an adult should care less about his/her relationship status. Marriage is for those who understand responsibility and are ready to take it.

Disclaimer: I haven’t said you need to attain the age bracket of Methuselah before you consider marriage. When it’s the right time, you’ll know and you should go for it.

Marriage is incomplete without children

Trouble starts when a man sees a woman (his wife) as a glorified baby-making factory; when he cares for and maintains the factory (the wife) with the sole expectation that it (she) should churn out desired products.

No one prays to be barren. In fact, God is not pleased with such a condition. Hence, He makes a woman who is in a childless home a joyful mother – Psa 113:9. However, it’s shallow to think that a marriage is incomplete without an offspring. While bearing and raising godly seed is one of the reasons for marriage, it’s not the main purpose of the institution.

What then is the essence? Companionship of course. God created Eve so Adam won’t have to be all by himself. What’s more, the woman was designed to be a helper. The foundation/survival of a marriage is shaky once it’s built on the sole need to procreate. A marriage can survive all odds, childlessness inclusive, when the pillar that holds it is genuine love and a sound understanding of the essence of marriage.

I know of a very good number of childless couples who have enjoyed a long happily married life. Do they desire children regardless? Sure. Do they however feel something is wrong with their marriage because of their predicament? No – they know better. Is God able to grant their desire no matter the length of time? Definitely – it has happened before and it’s going to happen again.

Meanwhile, just so you know, not every couple wants children in marriage. Some are just fine with fulfilling purpose with each other. It’s not a sin. Last I checked, God didn’t reckon or relate with anyone (in the scriptures) based on their reproductive status.

He/she will change in marriage.

Whoever sells this idea to you doesn’t mean well.

I have good news for you: No miracle takes place on the altar. If he/she doesn’t measure up to a well-balanced standard, don’t go the long haul with such.

WYGIWYG is the case in marriage – What You Give Is What You Get.

During the course of courting, you keep seeing warning signals yet you keep ignoring them: “I know he has temper issues and can get physical sometimes. But then, he is a nice guy and all. I believe marriage is going to change him”. How about you run for your life before your life runs from you.

He claims to be a believer but is hardly interested in spiritual activities – prayer, studying of God’s word, attending a local church… However, he has sound morals and even ‘behave better than some so-called SUs. I’ll keep praying for him; I’m sure he is going to turn around (in marriage) with time. One can only hope the best for you.

Marriage is a blank slate. It’s a virgin soil that reproduces the seed sewn therein in folds. The marriage doesn’t make the couples but the other way round. What each party brings into marriage is what the marriage amplifies. Meanwhile, most times, folks get to relax on their weaknesses once they consummate the relationship. After all, they already have what they desire – the other party.

There is a special favour you have in marriage

If that’s the case, what happens to those who didn’t marry? The favor they enjoy from God is limited compared to their married counterparts? What happens to those great men in the scriptures who were highly favored of God and yet without a marriage certificate? I bet those who hold this thought use Proverbs 18:22 as a proof of their belief.

True, it’s easier and faster to get things done when two individuals of like mind are involved than it is for a single individual. However, it’s funny to think God dishes out his goodness variably on the basis of your marital status. God gives to all men generously and graciously.


Thank you for reading!


©Ayansola Ibukun

VOGUE PARODY: 73 QUESTIONS ABOUT ME

I’ll have to say a big thanks to a wonderful/’merciful’ lady and fellow blogger – Mercy of Herry Chic Counsels for putting me on the hot seat. She must have woken up one fine morning and thought of what she could do to make me rack my brain this much. May the good Lord bless you for putting me up to the challenge.

Mercy is blessed with wisdom and wits. You’re sure to find sweet counsels on faith, daily living, and such profound subjects on her blog. Kindly visit her blog to benefit from the goodness it offers.

In case you don’t know, Vogue’s 73 Questions is a video series on YouTube whereby Vogue asks celebrities 73 questions under 10 minute. Bloggers and Vloggers have also started their own version of this method, which is a way of getting to know fellow bloggers better.

Personally, I think no ‘get-to-know-me’ scenario can be more exhaustive than this. Hence, reading this is synonymous to having a significant knowledge of my kind of person.

Okay. Enough with the preamble. Let’s get to know me already…

1. What’s your usual Starbucks order?

I wish we had Starbucks in my part of the world.

2. What does your work station look like?
Well-arranged most times

3. Favourite food?
Jollof rice or better still Nigerian Jollof

4. What do you think of open relationships?

➖ It’s a no no for me.

5. What is your favorite video game?

I don’t play video games.

6. Guilty pleasure treat?
Anything crisp and crunchy, like Pringles

7. Your favorite movie?
Hmm. 🤔Hard to tell…I’ll go for Shawshank Redemption

8. Favorite author?
Kenneth E. Hagin

9. Favourite book?
Fiction: Chinua Achebe’s Arrow of God; Non-fiction: The Bible

10. Twitter or Instagram?
You’ll find me more on Facebook

11. Desktop or laptop?
Laptop.

12. Best advice you’ve ever received?

Be the best of what God wants you to be.

13. What project are you working on right now?
📝 Working on a book

14. Favourite colour?
🔮Blue

15. Did you get good grades in school?

😎Depends on which school. Wasn’t much of a serious student in high school. I made up for it during my undergrad days though – came out with a fine grade.

16. Dream job?
Having a social media outfit/Publishing firm of my own.

17. Play any sports?
Unless strolling is one…I think not😆

18. Do you have a degree?
I sure do…a degree in English

19. Nationality?
Nigerian 🇳🇬 .

20. What is your favourite kind of blog post?
➕ If it’s healthy, instructive and informative, I’ll go for it.

22. Describe yourself in three words?
Man-in-Christ, principled, perceptive

23. If you were a rapper what would your stage name be?
Gotham…don’t ask 😁

24. Who was the last person you DM?
A friend you don’t know😉

25: What’s on top of your wish list right now?
Getting a book published asap

26. Favorite part of the day
Evening

27. How many tattoos do you have?
😒Not one

28. What are you most grateful for this year?
A lot.

29. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?
It’s still a new one. But then, with a purposeful life and sound health, what can ever go wrong?

30. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you today?
Waking up hale and hearty

31. What’s the best thing ever?
God

32. Favourite season?
☔ Rainy…as long as I’m indoor when it’s pouring down

33. Favourite holiday?
🤶 That should be Christmas.

34. What fictional character do you relate to most?
One that plays the role of a detective

35. Do you like surprises?
If it’s a good one and won’t make me pass out…yes.

36. Best gift you’ve ever gotten?

The gift of a great mother and wholesome friends.

37. Which surprise made you cry?Can’t remember

38. What’s the best surprise you’ve given somebody else?
I sometimes get the urge to talk to folks who happen to be at lowest point of their lives at the time. When I follow that urge and minister to the need, you can tell how overwhelmed they are about the gesture.

39. Do you like muffins?
Sure. I don’t get to eat them often though

40. Do you cook often?
I should think so.

41. What’s your favorite dessert?
Anything chips

42. Is there a dessert you don’t like?
I’m yet to come across it

43. Cake or pie?
Cake 🎂

44. What’s your least favourite food?
pasta products 🍝

45. What’s your favourite condiment?
Not sure I have one

46. It’s 4 am on a random Saturday. What are you eating?
😴 I’m sleeping…unless eating in the dream is part of it 😂

47. If you could teach a college class what would it be called?
Language as a tool for social engineering.

48. Best animated film?
The Lion King 🦁

49. What has a lady done or said to impress you?
Warning:Don’t laugh!

Back in the day, I used to find hugging awkward. Then one day, during my undergrad days, I ran into a good female friend and classmate of mine who hugged me instinctively. As usual, mine was awkward. She then looked me in the eye and said to me: “learn to be hugged” then showed me how to do it well. Of course, I felt moderately embarrassed. But then, her action created a good/lasting impression on me.

50. The best thing to do on a first date?
Just be you and get to know each other. No pressures

51. The worst thing to do on a first date?
Being insincere with yourself and the other party

53. Best comic book character?
I hardly read comics

54. Name three things which can always be found in your backpack.
My bible, note-pad, laptop

55. Favourite drink?
Yogurt, if it counts as a drink

56. If you could play a historical character in a movie who would it be?
Private Trip (Denzel Washington) in the movie Glory

57. Kittens or puppies?
🚶 🚶 Not a fan of either. I still try to avoid been in close proximity with dogs.

58. Favourite sushi roll?
Local man like me…never taken any kind of sushi😏

59. What song do you currently use as your ringtone?
🎶 Sweet Praise by Bethel Music

60. What Kind of movies do you watch?
detective, crime-scene investigation, power-play, intrigue, epics/historicals, science fiction, adventure

61. Who’s your favorite televangelist?
Joseph Prince

62. Early bird or night owl?
Both

63. Favorite Disney Character?
I rarely see Disney movies

64. What are you doing tomorrow?
Working on a little but equally important project

65. Movie you laughed the hardest through?
Not sure I can even single out one…but if I have to, I’ll go for the Rush Hour episodes

66. Movie that made you cry?
Quite a number of them but Glory should do.

67. If you could sing a duet with anybody, who would you choose?
Asa

68. If your life was a song what would the title be?
Every Shade of Grace

69. What’s your favourite animal?
Giraffe 🦒

70. Favourite illustrator?
I don’t have one

71. The person you want to have coffee with?
Dan Brown

72. What country would you like to visit?
Italy 🇮🇹

73. Best way to decompress?
Watch a movie and go on a visit.


Phew! If you’ve read up to this point, then I must commend you for your forbearance. I sincerely hope I didn’t bore you with the ‘me-oriented’ epistle.

Meanwhile, I’m supposed to nominate a couple of bloggers for this challenge but I think I’ll pass on that.

Thanks for patiently reading through. Grateful.

Regards,
Ibukun


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THE LIEBSTER AWARD

A wonderful blogger Fiez has considered me fit to be nominated for the Liebster Award. Thanks a lot Fiez for the honor. I do not take it for granted.

I’ve come to highly regard quite a number of bloggers and she is on top of the list. Fiez is a creative writer/blogger per excellence. She carves everything positive and inspiring into well-composed lines. Her writings cut across genres like flash fictions, poems, proverbs, motivational articles, writing guides and much more.

Kindly visit and follow her blog Artistic Words to benefit from the lots of goodness her works avail. You won’t regret doing so.

A Little About This Award.

The Liebster Award is internet based and given by bloggers to fellow bloggers. The idea is to help connect with and support other bloggers.

The Rules:

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you.

2. Share 11 facts about yourself.

3. Answer the 11 questions the blogger
asked you.

4. Nominate 11 bloggers and make them happy!

5. Make up to 11 questions for your nominees to answer.

6. Notify your 11 nominees.

11 Facts About Myself:

1. I’m a Nigerian through and through and from the Yoruba speaking tribe.

2. I speak mainly English, Yoruba and a bit of Pidgin. Although I’ll like to learn a couple of foreign languages, looks like my brain has reached the limit of its plasticity.

3. I’m intentional about my relationships with people and ensure I leave positive impacts.

4. You can’t see me and not see God. I’m a firm believer in Christ and I live to serve Him.

5. One sport I can’t try out is swimming. I have issues with ‘waters’.

6 When I’m not at work, on the road, in church or seeing someone, you are likely to find me in the comfort of my room. Yes, I’m mostly an indoor person.

7. I love to read novels and see movies. Just that I hardly have the time to do either these days.

8. I’m a case study when it comes to songs. You need to see my collections/playlist. I listen to varying kind of songs regardless of the genre (from oldies to contemporary) as long as it’s meaningful. I’m more into gospels though.

9. I like to walk/pace a lot; it helps me think better. Although I think it’s a burden sometimes.

10. You want to get me something? Get me a book of substance. Yea, I’ll like to consider myself a mid-level bibliomaniac. Meanwhile, you don’t need to restrict the ‘gettings’ to books only.😉

11. I like serene environments a lot – countryside, suburbs…; a spot where I can relish the beauty of nature.

My answers to Fiez’s questions:

1. What are your favorite blog topics?
I think I look out more for topics that deals with faith, relationships,lifestyle, and informative write-ups.

2.Which of your blog posts do you think is the best?
🤔Hmm. Kinda hard to single out the best from one’s list of works. But if I have to, I’ll go for The Believer; His Health and Commonsense.

3. What is your country of origin what do you like about your country?
I’m from this wonderful country called Nigeria. Among other things, one thing fascinates me about the country is its diversity: A nation of hundreds of languages, tribes, cultures and belief systems – we can’t have a dull moment with that.

4. How is your emotional state when looking at an adult crying bitterly?
I literally sighed reading this questions. It’s not uncommon to see adults cry but it’s not usual. Whatever makes a grownup cry must eat into the bones. I feel really uncomfortable and highly concerned seeing an adult cry.

5. If you were to live someone else’s life, who would it be and why?
😎I admire the lifestyle of quite a number of people. However, I’ve never considered walking in their shoes. I love the life God gave me. I’ll just rather be a better version of me.

6. If you were placed in an air-conditioned room for a whole day, how comfortable would you be?
As a local man that I am, I won’t be comfortable at all, especially if the temperature is high 🤦‍♂️. That’s why I always have a jacket handy at work. I can’t deal.

7. When you become the president of your country, will you still blog?
😂 . Seriously? Now that you asked, I’ll have to research on the number of sitting presidents who blog. But then, I’ll love to if there is ever a room for it. It’s easier said than done though.

8. What is the one food you’ll not eat for all the gold in the world?
Smiles. I love to experiment when it comes to food so I won’t want to be close-minded about eating a particular food. However, if I come across a food that I have a ‘not good’ feeling about, I sure won’t eat it for anything.

9. How many books have you finished reading this month?
As much I’ll like to give you a number in 10s, I’m afraid I’m afraid I’ve only read just two. 😢

10. On a scale of 1 to 10, with ten as the strongest, how would you rate your passion for exercise?
One thing I’m particularly lazy at. Let me rate myself on 4 ½ 😂 . I really need to work on it. So help me God!

11. What character/attitude of yours do you like most?
Not that I have a preference coz each one serves an important purpose. I’ll go for thoughtfulness though.

If you’re nominated, please write a post, it will mean so much to a lot of bloggers. But if time won’t permit you, reblog this Liebster Award Post right away. Cheers.

My 11 Nominees:

1. Queen Karen
2. Inspired Grisele
3. d_analyzt
4. haven4life
5. Paulina Mwindor
6. Rupali
7. Precious One
8. Perth Girl
9. Winnie Malinga
10. rubiescorner
11. HeavenlyGlimpse

Congratulations to you all! 🥂🥂

My questions for the nominees:

1. What makes you tick?
2. Who is your favourite author?
3. What’s your most memorable experience in recent times?
4. Why did you decide to blog?
5. Where is the best place you’ll go for a vacation?
6. Who are your first three most loved artistes?
7. How do you find inspiration for your writings?
8. What’s your best meal?
9. What’s that one thing you can’t do without?
10. How best do you relax?
11. What’s your favorite quote?


Thanks for sticking with me all the way. I look forward to enjoying this ride with you all for a long time to come.

“About Changing Lanes” – Fiez

Couple of days ago, I came across this brilliant piece by a fellow blogger Fiez of Artistic Words and it resonates with me.

It’s such an apt allegorical representation of the concept/ideal of kindness. What’s more, the manner in which she communicates the message, (using the struggle for thoroughfare between drivers in traffic) is ingenious.

I thought to share it with you. Trust me, you’ll find it a great read.

Fiez-writer

Photo by Kevin Lee, Unsplash.com.

He signalled and slowed down, trafficator blinking.

Some things are facile, changing course inclusive.

One gives a space in front, another pulls his car into it.

But with time he realised, that no one was kind enough.

Soon his turning point got close, he shouldn’t pass that point.

He vowed to take a space, by hook and crook.

A feeble man couldn’t survive, in a world full of struggle.

He must prove his strength and their space take by force.

He tried once, twice, thrice, again, again and again.

Behold, every bumper kept kissing  another.

“Join from behind,” they screamed

“Maintain your lane, ” went the angry shouts.

Everywhere he tried, was all tight and closed.

He’s nothing but stuck, in between two lanes.

He looked back in shock, endless traffic behind.

His wait long…

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